News & Updates

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Since Bryan returned to rehab we have seen improvements. His memory, while often times off, is incredible for his type of injury. His answers are sometimes wrong, but the fact that they are right most of the time is amazing. Sometimes, we see a difference in his personality but other times, his old self shines through. While physical therapy and occupational therapy are very difficult for him and exhausts him, his determination is great to see. He can only do about 3 hours of PT and OT a day, spread out, but he goes through the motions and his therapists all report there’s definitely a change in his stiffness and his ability to move. He complains about a lot of pain, sometimes being 10 out of 10. Doctors say it’s probably due to his extra bone growth so they work around that pain cautiously. He’s also able to stay in his wheelchair longer now without getting tired so that means more trips outside, although, gasp…he seems to like the shade!!!
In speech therapy they have been working on reading (he reads great for the most part!) and basic math skills. 7 x 3? Yeah…he knew the answer!

Before, when we said his old personality comes through, we thought we would share some examples. One day, when his speech therapist was working with him, the TV was on and she noticed Bry wasn’t paying too much attention. So, she asked what he was watching. On the TV was a female news reporter and Bryan said, “Ohhh, she’s hot.” Yep. That’s our Bryan. We made a CD of the music from this site to play for him. The other day Home Sweet Home came on and he mouthed the words while moving his head to the beat. One day one of his nurses came in and said, “Heeeeyyy Bryan!!” Bry said, “Heeeeyyy, what’s goin’ on?” He then got the biggest smile we’ve seen to date (even the biggest smile is about a half smile, but still). The other night when Bonnie was there she was saying she was leaving and he said ok. He closed his eyes and about two seconds later opened them and said, “Why are you still there?” She said, “Because it’s only been a couple of seconds, geez,” and he said, “Oh.” Bonnie also asked if he wanted her to shave his head or if he wanted hair and he said, “Uuhhh, I want hair.”

We try and keep updates positive with all the good things going on with Bryan, however we don’t want to give a skewed impression of his recovery. Getting to even this point has been a very long process and “this point” still weighs heavy on our hearts as we see him have difficulty with even the easiest movements such as moving his arm. The doctors are very happy with how far his brain has come, but his body has yet to catch up. He now has kidney stones, extra bone growths, blood clots and is still very stiff. Bryan has made it this far by determination, power of prayers, amazing doctors and support from you all. We’ve made it this far with the love of each other, our family and friends, and of course, all of you. We have a great support system to lean on and couldn’t have made it these past 7 months without it. There’s a group, the Bryan Brigade. This video was made by a member to support Bryan and we just had to share it. With all of this support from everyone…how do we even say thank you?

Comments

# andrea
Monday, October 31, 2011 12:03 AM
bless you for sharing Bryan's progress with all of us! It's so exciting to know he's entered this next chapter of healing... but it's also easy to see how these days can be tough ones~ the Stow Family is one of the most impressive, brave, & devoted families ever! i am here for you yesterday, today, & forever onward~ xxxooo
# Catherine from San Francisco
Monday, October 31, 2011 12:21 AM
Dear Stow Family,
You and Bryan are all an inspiration to us all. I know there are days when it is so very hard, but then there are those days that energizes the hope and strength in each one of you. May there be more energized days than hard days ahead and know that you are all loved and in our prayers every night.
God Bless you all,
Love,
A Very Devoted Bryan Brigade Member xoxoxoxoxoxo
# Nancy S.
Monday, October 31, 2011 1:21 AM
I am so happy to hear how far Bryan has come...Yet he still has a long way to being his perfect self which I know he will..Thoughts and Prayers are always being said for the Stow family and of course for Bryan....May God keep bringing strength to you....
Luv,
Another member of Bryan's Brigade.....
# Susan Creger
Monday, October 31, 2011 10:08 AM
Wow... What a beautiful song for a AWESOME update!!!!♫♫♪♪ Bry.. you are loved sooo much and The support is amazing! Keep going strong Bryan you will get thru this!! We all wish you the best and the prayers are strong!! Thinking of you daily.. From Thornton,Colorado..
# Angie
Monday, October 31, 2011 11:51 AM
Everytime I read an update I get tears in my eyes. I can feel all the love you have for Bryan coming out in your words. How hard it must be to stay as positive as you are and you all inspire me. I have had a rough few weeks with losing some of my loved ones but when I come here and read your updates it helps me to keep things in perspective and count all my blessings. I too have a WONDERFUL loving family and AWESOME friends and thank you for helping to remember.

I am sending continued prayers for Bryan and you all!!! It hasn't been an easy road but I pray that he continues to travel forward on it!! Love and hugs to you all!! <3
Angie
Raleigh, NC
# Rachel C.
Monday, October 31, 2011 12:07 PM
Good morning Stow family and happy halloween! I know you look forward to the day when Bryan can take his kids out trick or treating again and do all the normal things he used to.. don't lose hope, we're here for you and we're praying for you and Bryan and your whole family every step of the way. There are times i'm certain that are frustrating, or that try your spirit, that's when you come right here and feel our love and support and dedication to seeing this thing through.

Keep your heads up and know that we are all behind you. We have faith that all things will happen in the time that they are suppossed to happen...

p.s. ... i LOVE that Bryan still wants to make sure he has hair... now you know that's a GREAT sign... :)
# Mary Camera
Monday, October 31, 2011 12:20 PM
Still keeping updated, still praying daily. And still believing.
(Thumbs up for hot chicks!!)
Love from Santa Cruz
# Julie Quesada
Monday, October 31, 2011 1:25 PM
Hi Stow Family,

Once again... you are amazing! The love you have for one another is so beautiful. I'm so glad to hear that Bryan is making progress with your love and support keeping him going. I continue to pray for all of you and appreciate you keeping us posted on his condition.

God Bless,
Julie Q
# Claussen's Corner
Monday, October 31, 2011 4:09 PM
I think 3 hours of PT and OT, spread out during the day is very triumphant! It makes me tired just thinking about it. Sounds like all the precautions are there in his recovery and it really sounds like he's doing remarkably well, considering the circumstances. He's lucky to have such a wonderful and loving family. All of us here are thinking of all of you there.
With love,
Claussen's Corner
Angels Camp
# Paulio
Monday, October 31, 2011 4:41 PM
Hello Bryan & family, how nice to see an update. Happy Halloween to you guys and I hope today brings Bryan more treats than tricks.

One of the reasons Bryan's incident has affected me so profoundly is because it really could have happened to anyone. Out of nearly 50,000 people at Dodger Stadium on opening day, Bryan somehow drew the unluckiest card. Since then, with your regular updates, we've all seen just how narrowly Bryan escaped a mortal fate. As a person without religious faith like so many others here, I need to find inspiration in life from the people in this world. That's not always easy to do, especially when you read about the two cowards who blindsided Bryan and his friends in a dimly-lit parking lot. But the flipside is being 'introduced' to a beautiful group of human beings. I include a lot of people in that group: not just the Stow family, but all the doctors and caregivers who treated Bryan; the people at AMR who transported him; the Giants players who came to see him and who helped defray some of his expenses or those of his children (here's looking at you, Mr. Barry Bonds); and all the people who follow Bryan's saga on facebook or here on this site.

And that's why I love to see a, how to put this, a well-rounded update like this latest one. 10/10 pain? Kidney stones? Bone pain? It takes my breath away... I mean, I had a kidney stone once. It took a couple weeks to pass, resulted in 10/10 pain for several days, and was only resolved by a visit to the ER and surgery the next day. But then it was all over, and I quickly went back to my life. To imagine Bryan having to deal with similar pain and discomfort while also dealing with all of his other serious medical conditions and present limitations... well, words really aren't sufficient. Bryan is enduring more than most of us are ever likely to face, even in our worst hours. So I tip my cap to you once again, Mr. Bryan Stow. And Stow family, you know that you have my sympathies... no one wants to see a family member in pain and be unable to do much of anything to ameliorate it. And here's a last shout-out to all you folks who've posted your stories about TBIs or family members who endured TBIs. Before this happened to Bryan, I had no idea about how much a person could endure and still survive. And that's why humanity still inspires me, for all its faults.
# Mona
Monday, October 31, 2011 5:40 PM
Happy Halloween to Bryan and Family, May today indeed bring a whole lot of treats and happy surprises. Heck, maybe a trick or two from Bryan as a sign of love and that he is indeed (always will be) Bryan. Loved the hair and tv comments. I continue to be in awe of all of your strength and courage. Many years ago, I was a Dodgers fan. That was back when the team was a team in the truest sense of the word and actually cared about each other and their fans. Sadly that no longer seems to be the case. I honestly only watch parts of games for nostalgia and to hear the great Vin Scully. My point in sharing that was I may not be a true fan of the Giants team but I am a huge fan of their character toward your family. Yeah, pun intended, I have become a "Giant" virtual fan of Bryan and all of yours, his family. Peace, love, and Halloween magic.
# snausage
Monday, October 31, 2011 9:38 PM
My friend and I have an annual Halloween tradition of strolling down 24th street from Mission to the end, looking at altars in shop windows, admiring the orange bunches of marigolds, enjoying a torta at Torta Gordo, seeing the new murals that have been created since last year. My friend had her black and orange "Dia de Los Gigantes" tshirt on, which is a brilliant combination of Muertos and Giants (the traditional skull sporting a Giants' cap).

Why am I telling you this? This year (our 16th of doing "The Stroll") was different because I was wearing my Stow band. And it is black and orange and I have worn it since I received it months ago...and it just seemed perfect, thinking of fall and Halloween and the Giants and Bryan.

So many of us are in the Brigade!

It is gratifying to read that it helps you in any small or large way that we are out here.

I have to say that I was thrilled reading an LA Times story that when news that Bryan had first spoken reached the Dodger players and coaches, they reacted like electricity had struck them....they were so happy. That made me smile a little. A lot, actually.

Keep it going, Stows. You're doing great!

Jan from San Fran
# snausage
Monday, October 31, 2011 10:21 PM
small correction: the wonderful restaurant is "La Torta Gorda" (no, I'm not related to anyone there).
# carmen
Wednesday, November 02, 2011 8:55 AM
glad to see the updates..continue getting better...wishing you the fastest recuperation possible...our thoughts and prayers always with you...
# Deb
Wednesday, November 02, 2011 12:03 PM
Again, thanks for the wonderful updates. When I was saying my prayers the other night I couldn't help but think about what an unbelievable family you Stow's are. Along with the many prayers, the Dr's and nurses, it has been the strength of you - Dave, Ann, Erin, and Bonnie who have made such a tremendous difference in Bryan's recovery by being there by his side and cheering him on.

I can't begin to imagine how stiff and the pain Bryan is in - heck after sitting at my desk for an hour or 2 I'm sore, I can't begin to imagine after being in bed for so many months. If anyone can pull through, it's Bryan.

God Bless all of you - you are truly an inspiration to all.
# Rita S. Flores
Wednesday, November 02, 2011 3:31 PM
Wow, thank you again for the updates, I truly look forward to them. My continued prayers for your amazing family. I still hold on to the hugs I got from Bonnie&Erin when I met you at the prayer vigil at USC-County Hospital. Stay Strong & May God Bless you always!
Rita S. Flores
East Los Angeles, CA
# Ramona Dahl
Wednesday, November 02, 2011 9:33 PM
I am moved to tears by this news that Bryan wrote his name. My brother was senselessly beaten by some lowlife two years ago. It was one of the lowest points in my life, and though he still suffers from some speech problems, he is a functioning and productive human being. When I saw Bryan's name on the piece of paper, I was reminded of my brother and when he did the same thing. Bryan is on my prayer list, and will continue to be, as will the family. May the blessings of our Lord rain down on all of you--for strength, for guidance, for patience.
# Brandon
Thursday, November 03, 2011 5:54 PM
This is fantastic news! I am so glad to hear that Bryan has written his name. I'm positive that everyone around the US keeps praying for progress in his recovery. You guys are a fantastic family and keep up the hope!

Brandon
Portland, OR
# Genny
Friday, November 04, 2011 3:41 PM
Bryan & Stow Family. I love seeing all of the updates that you give us about Bryan. Me and my family are so happy that he is progressing along good. Keep up the good works. You have a lot of people supporting you and cheering you on with this struggle that you are going threw. Keep it up.

Genny
Clovis, Ca

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