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Entries for June 2011



Just a reminder that this website is for positive support for Bryan and his family.  Any negative and untrue comments will be deleted.

Hi everyone! Bryan was scheduled to have a shunt put in today, but we got a call early this morning that his fever spiked last night. He's back on antibiotics and Dr Manley and other doctors are trying to figure out what is going on with him. We will keep everyone updated on when its rescheduled.
On a brighter note, yesterday, while Dr Manley was in Bryan's room talking with Dave and Bonnie, Bonnie was holding up a little foam ambulance that we put in Bry's left hand to keep it limber. She asked Bryan if he wanted it in his hand. Dr Manley watched as Bryan slowly turned his left hand over, palm up, as if to say, "yes please." It’s hard when his responses aren't consistent. Sometimes we wonder if it's coincidence. But, it's something, we think.
It seems like every time something happens that could break us, we turn to this site and all your comments. The latest turn of events has us reading the comments of the people who really matter. All of you. We hope each and every one of you know just how much you mean to our family.

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Additional update - 8:31 PM

We have been getting a lot of inquiries regarding a video that was released this morning. It shows Bryan being yelled at by a Dodger fan while inside Dodger Stadium on Opening Day. It also shows Bryan being, well... Bryan. Hands up, staying in his seat and non-confrontational. This video is hard to watch, not only for the obvious reason that Bryan was taunted both in the video and after, but to see his face, scared and not wanting an altercation. We hope this video puts to rest the rumor that Bryan is aggressive. He simply wanted to watch his Giants play. A perfect example of its JUST a game.

Bryan has been very sleepy these past few days. We try to not get discouraged when before he was more alert, eyes tracking and now, not so much. In our last post we mentioned patience and how important it is. It's tough at times. We don't show Bryan our exhaustion, or our fears or our frustration. We lean on each other, our friends and all of Bryan's supporters.
For the past few days Bryan has been tentatively scheduled to have a shunt put into his head. They did a CT scan last week and it was found that he has some excess fluid in his brain. A small incision is made and the shunt is placed in. Then, the tube is snaked down behind his ear, down his chest, with the end draining into his abdomen. Dr. Manley said it is not uncommon around this stage for the shunt to have to be put in, and it's not an uncommon procedure. Bryan was originally supposed to have it on Friday of last week, but a urine infection postponed it. Even if it's not an uncommon surgery, we still worry and pray everything is fine. Hopefully the surgery will make him less sleepy.
These past few weeks brought another round of amazing cards, letters, comments on this site and gifts for Bryan and Tyler and Tabitha. When Bryan wakes up and sees how generous people have been, we know he will be as overwhelmed with gratitude as we are.

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First off, we want to thank everyone for your prayers. They are working!! If you haven't heard, Bryan's doctors have upgraded his condition from critical to serious! This is a big step! With his eyes opening and getting more arm movement, we are hopeful there is more to come as they lower his medication.

While this is great news, Bryan still has a long, unknown road ahead of him. We are cautious to not let excitement get in the way of what COULD be. We hope and pray for a full recovery, but are also trying to prepare mentally should his recovery be anything but full. Keyword for us now? Patience. Which is why we picked this theme song for our update.

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From Dave, Bryan's Dad:

Thank you, everyone, for your prayers for Bryan. Also, thank you for your Father's Day messages to both Bryan and I. I got hugs from my two daughters today... but one hug was missing. I'm looking forward to the day that I get three... Happy Father's Day to all of you.


From Bonnie & Erin:

On a side note: we went to see Motley Crue in San Francisco with Bryan's roommate Danny and friends Thomas, Cindy and Rob. We have attended Motley concerts with him in the past, so needless to say he was in our thoughts all night. Especially when they played Home Sweet Home. During part of the show, Tommy Lee did an amazing drum solo..while going in circles on this giant, round rollercoaster type setup. We videotaped it and showed it to Bry the next day. He stared at it the entire 3 plus minutes of it. Bryan, on the long list of reasons for you to get better, we have added that you have concerts to attend. They aren't the same without you. Happy Fathers Day from your seeesters.
(Web administration apologizes these did not post on Sunday.)

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Sorry for not posting an update sooner! Things are moving slowly at the moment so there haven't been any new developments.

Doctors are still lowering Bryan's seizure medications, trying to adjust them to find a good balance. Bryan has been sleepy this week, but still tracking. We continue to play him music, talk to him, and read him your comments. If he hears us, he knows that Father's Day is approaching.

Bryan will make it through this and we believe his children are his motivation.

~Keep the prayers coming!

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Hello Everyone~
My name is Jacque Kain and I am the mother of Bryan's children. Because you all have been so supportive and caring not only about Bryan, but also thinking so much about the kids I thought I would let you all know that I have taken them to see their Dad. We have gone twice now and each time it gets a little easier. The kids have been so extremely strong through all of this and the visits have made them even stronger. Every night before dinner we all sit down and pray for Bryan to get better...
The first visit was amazing. Bryan's eye was open and he was actually tracking the kids when they would move around the room! That made the kids extremely happy. We are not sure if this was an involuntary action or if it was voluntary...but for now we will take it as voluntary!! :) Prior to the visit my husband and I talked with the kids about talking to their Dad as if he were able to talk back to them...kind of an awkward feeling for them, but they did it! They talked with him, touched him, hugged and kissed him. When we were done I asked them how they were feeling and our son said the sweetest thing I have ever heard...."It felt so good to hug Dad again...I miss him".
The second visit was even better, both eyes were open! He looked right at me then looked at Tabitha and Tyler...again, we were very excited. The love for ones child is amazing and I do believe that it will help Bryan to see his children more often. The kids are eagerly waiting to go again, and now that summer is here, we will be able to go whenever they want.
I would like to take this time and thank everyone for their wonderful, loving support. I want you to know that the kids and I sit down and read the posts on this website. We see and feel the prayers you all are sending and it is an amazing feeling. Being in the position I am in is a difficult one to say the least. When I read the beautiful prayers and posts I get the intense feeling that I'm not protecting the kids alone...thousands of people out there are praying for Bryan and his children and protecting them with God's bright light!....I am forever grateful for that. Please continue to pray for all involved and again, Thank You!
~Jacque, Tyler and Tabitha

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Bryan has been sleepy the past two days. They are starting to lower the Dilantin seizure medication, and will start lowering the Phenobarbital soon. He has a window room now, which is perfect. We all know how Bryan likes the outdoors.

We continue to read Bryan all the cards and letters that he receives AND the comments made here and on the Our Prayers page.

For now, we are just keeping an eye out for any progress, and we will keep everyone posted.


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Bryan is tracking with his eyes!

The doctors aren't sure if that is his brain reacting to voice and movement or if he does see us. We like to think he sees us, but if he doesn't its good to know that his brain has reactions. He should be off the fourth seizure medication today, then early next week they will start reducing another.

Yesterday was an emotional day. As we were in Bryan's room, we looked out the window to see 4 fire engines, rows of firefighters and police units. Sadly, San Francisco Fire lost one of their own, and another is in a room by Bryan in critical condition.

We ask that you all please say a prayer for the firefighters and their families... we will be praying right alongside you.

Please send your love to SFFD at: Prayers for San Francisco Fire Department on Facebook


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