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Entries for March 2012

Mar
31
One year ago, our lives were forever changed. Its hard to believe that it has been a year since Bryan was hurt. The emotions we felt when we found out what happened are still with us to this day. Its painful to think back to that day, and the following days, weeks, even months, and think about what we went through emotionally and at times, physically. This literally took our lives and turned them upside down. We have always tried to take as much good from this as we possibly can, but to be honest, at times that is hard to do. Because Bryan still has so far to go, it's easy to get discouraged, feel down and even get angry for what happened to him. We feel sad for Tyler and Tabitha, who need their dad. We feel sad for Bryan, for having to go through what he's been through and what he will go through for the rest of his life. But, because he has his life we are forever thankful. We know we have each other to help pick ourselves up and remind ourselves of the times in the beginning, where there was really no sign of life in Bryan, when we sat there staring, longing and praying for any eye movement or hand twitch. Praying the seizures would stop and the infections would go away. Then we prayed for any sign of recognition, and then to hear the words we had missed for so long..."I love you." Then...the kisses.
Bryan is strong, there is no doubt about that. Along with his strength, he had all the prayers that were said for him to help get him through the roughest times. We know that they will continue to carry him through this, in what direction they take him, that we don't know. But we will be with him every step of the way. The song Patience was one of our first and its what we continue to live by.
Today we participated in the Walk for Thought. A fundraiser for the Brain Injury Association of California, which helps raise awareness and money for Brain Injuries and research. Dave, Ann, Erin, Bonnie, Mikayla, Jacque, Tyler and Tabitha, along with other family, friends and supporters walked a mile (in the rain!) for this great cause as team Get Stow-ked. We were honored to be a part of it and we couldn't have thought of a more fitting way to spend the anniversary of Bryan's injury; together, supporting a cause that is now so important to us.

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Mar
04
Hi everyone!
Sorry it’s been so long since we have done an update. A lot has happened and we are just now able to sit and put it all into words. A little over a week ago, Bryan had surgery on the Achilles tendons on both his feet to correct the drop foot he had. The casts were taken off Thursday and he should now be able to put his feet flat when his therapists stand him. We shared with you that we had a surprise birthday party for him. Despite all the people and the excitement, when asked, Bryan doesn’t remember, even when we asked him the day after. The biggest thing that has happened is Bryan was transferred. He was moved Thursday to a facility with aggressive therapy that will help him become as independent as possible. He shares an apartment with 2 other TBI patients and has someone with him at all times helping him. He still needs someone to transfer him to and from his chair, dress him, make his meals, etc. Unfortunately there are no rehab places fitting for Bryan close to home. Being so far away, the move was tough. We think the long drive, combined with being in an unfamiliar place set Bryan back a bit, which we suppose is to be expected. He hasn’t been sleeping well since he got to the facility, barely has an appetite and at one point he said he was scared. All we can do is hug him, tell him he isn’t alone and try not to cry in front of him. We have worked out a schedule so that at least one of us is with him at all times. Ann took a leave of absence from work, which will be tough financially but none of us would have it any other way. Like we have this past year, we will make it work.
We have to say a huge thank you to everyone at Santa Clara Valley Medical Center, where Bry had been since October. From the doctors, nurses, therapists, his coaches (sitters), the people in the cafeteria and the janitorial staff…they helped us get through being at a hospital daily. We also know that Bryan was very fond of all of them as well. Please keep our family, especially Bryan, in your prayers during this transition.
From another of Bryan’s favorite bands, we picked this song because, for the past 11 months, nothing else mattered but Bryan. We have learned we also need to live our lives as normal as possible, but this is our new normal. Not really knowing what to expect. “Trust I seek and I find in you, every day for us something new. Open mind for a different view, and nothing else matters.”

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Stow Family Album

Easter 2004