News & Updates

Entries for January 2012

Bryan continues to amaze all of us! We love that he has a sense of humor again, even with a look he can make us all laugh. We hope his feeding tube can be removed soon since he can now eat ground food. He seems seems to like it, except he still seems to not like peas, which Erin couldn’t agree more..
We have always said that this couldn’t have happened to Bryan for nothing and that some good has got to come from it. For us, it brought our family closer together than ever before. For the bigger picture we have wanted to use Bryan’s story to raise awareness about fan violence and brain injuries. Our family has learned more about traumatic brain injuries than we ever thought possible. The more we learned, the more we realized just how little is known about it. Dr. Manley has stressed to us about the lack of funding when it comes to TBIs and is a big advocate on making it known. Through a support group we found out about a walk in San Jose on March 31st to support the Brain Injury Association of California. The date of the walk is one year to the day Bryan was hurt. There’s no way we could NOT do this. Our team name (so cleverly thought of by Tyler) is “Get Stow-ked”. Tyler, Tabitha, Jacque, Bonnie, Erin and other family and friends are doing this for Bryan and all other TBI survivors. If you would like to support our team, the link below will show you what to do. If there is a walk close to you, you can even start your own team and walk for Bryan or a loved one. As always, we have appreciated all the support from everyone!

We would love nothing more then to have Bryan come home. We know, eventually, it will happen. Even with his continued progress and determination, we also know it won't be happening anytime soon. He requires around the clock care, and with his medications, Gtube and lack of initiation him coming home just isn't an option for anyone, most of all him.

We try to start and end our posts with Bryan stories or funny things Bryan has said or done. His most recent is telling us he wants to grow his hair long again. If you look through the pictures on this site, you will see some of him with his long, beautiful hair. We thought maybe he wouldn’t remember saying that or would change his mind but each time he’s asked he said he’s going to grow it out. If he does in fact do this, we’ll have to hold back and not tease him during the growing out phase where it will start to look like a mullet. Our rocker is back!

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Bryan continues into 2012 with his therapies. Along with the Botox, he was fitted for a cast for his left foot because his therapists noticed his foot wasn’t lying flat on the ground when they stood him up at the standing table. From being in a bed for so long the feet start to droop, which they call Foot Drop. The cast goes on for 2 hours at a time and then removed, to allow air. Since wearing the cast the physical therapists said his foot is almost now lying flat on the ground. He seems to enjoy the manicures and even told Bonnie to fix a nail the other night. He still doesn't like us to touch his feet though, so we have to be quick about it.

Everyone here has come to “know” Bry in the past 9 months. Whether it be from the news or from this site, bits and pieces of the man Bryan was has been told. We thought we would share some stories of the Bryan before this happened, so you could get to know him even better. These are stories we often remind Bryan of while sitting with him. You all know Bryan was, and is, hilarious. Everyone would vouch for that. He also loved music and concerts. He worked out, loved his children, loved the Giants and the Cowboys and loved his job. For the most part, we were a close family, both immediate and extended, with annual “Stow Family Barbeques”, and dinners on birthdays. Bryan was outgoing and the life of the party and was VERY meticulous about his appearance, especially his hair. As Tyler and Tabitha got older, Bryan started taking them to sporting events and had tickets for them to go to a concert when he got hurt.

One year for Ann’s birthday, Bryan got them tickets to go see Neil Diamond. Yes, Bryan loved heavy metal and rock but he also loved Neil Diamond and would argue with Erin, (a huge Elvis fan) that he was the true king of rock.

On a side note, we have decided to close down the online store but want to thank everyone who is out there supporting Bryan and wearing a For Stow sweatshirt, shirt, hat, lapel pin, or a decal sticker on your car. We want to say a HUGE thank you to Joel and Brook at JS Designs for, since day one, printing and shipping the orders and only requesting reimbursement for shipping. The online store was instrumental in fundraising and we deeply appreciate JS Designs for all they have done.

We picked this song for the update because it is one of Bryan’s favorite Neil Diamond songs.

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Wow. What a year. You would think that March 31st would have been what defines 2011 for our family. But actually, it’s what we take away from that horrible day that defines it. We have witnessed so much love and support. We are praying 2012 will be better for Bryan, Tyler and Tabitha.

Bryan continues with his therapies, exhausted at the end of each day. His therapists are working with him on using a manual wheelchair, instead of the electric one. His arms are so stiff and his reaction time is slow, so they want him to practice bringing each arm up onto the wheels and pushing down. He is able to move the chair little by little, but he has to be reminded to bring his hands back up to the top each time and it is a slow process. He got Botox in his left leg to loosen his ankle since his left foot doesn't go flat when they have him standing at the pedestal. We mentioned to the doctor that if they happened to have any extra Botox, we would be happy to take it off their hands. Wouldn't want it to go to waste, would we?

Jacque, Tyler and Tabby would like to thank everyone for your love and support. Tyler and Tabby received gifts for Christmas that were sent from people they have never met. We know that throughout this, they have learned of all the good people that are out there. People who are standing behind them and their dad every step of the way. Its a lesson they learned the hard way, but its one they will remember forever. Jacque: Tyler and Tabitha could not have had a better support system than what they have with you, Sam, M, and the people surrounding you. We love you guys.

Since March 31st, the 4 of us have been devastated, humbled, torn down and lifted up again. We are far from being a perfect family and we have never claimed to be. This year has shown that we will be united not just the four of us, but Bryan included. We have remained by his side from the beginning and will forever be by his side for as long as he wants us there.

Along the way, we have met some incredible people who will be a part of our family for the rest of our lives. Unfortunately, it also brought people into our lives who have hurt us, made us doubt ourselves and tried to tear us apart. It’s because of our love for each other and the support we have received from our family, friends and thousands of strangers that have helped us overcome the negativity that came along with this. And for this, we will be forever grateful.

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Stow Family Album

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